We forget that we are the system that creates these abusers. They shift the focus from the structural problem, and reduce it to targeted hatred towards a single person. These public trials often end up being reduced to mud-slinging and victim-blaming. All it takes for an abuser is some tweaks to the privacy settings or a deactivated account to shirk all accountability when they’re called out. While it is an important place to start, it ends up achieving very little in terms of a structural dismantling of rape culture. Having said this, I also understand the complexity of social media callouts. But they will be misogynistic enough to shield their abuser friends, to never let a woman speak her mind, to think that women wearing revealing clothes are “asking for it”, to use their privilege to exploit others. Sure, it may be a bit of a stretch to say that every boy from the ‘boys locker room’ will grow up to be a rapist. When we fail to push our boys into unlearning gender norms and toxic masculinity, we are complicit in the harassment they will eventually subject women to. Google drive nudes folder free#This is what happens when we don’t teach our boys to respect women, when we teach them that they have free reign to abuse the privileges bestowed upon them. What happened at JU is very much an extension of the ‘boys locker room’ incident. Men need to remember that the patriarchy affects them not just when they’re trolling feminists, but in every step of the way.Īlso read: Boys Will Be Boys, If We Stay Silent About ‘Locker Room’ Talk But it’s not just on women to shoulder this responsibility. Every time we’ve let a sexist joke slide, every time we’ve turned the other way when women decided to speak up, every time we chose to side with the abuser, whether actively or through our silence, we have contributed to this problem. One way or another, we have all been enablers. It’s disappointing to see that many men have still not begun to have this conversation. I’m seeing so many women struggle with similar ghosts from their pasts. I’m guilty of not fighting hard enough when someone I was close to decided to shelter a man who had sexually harassed multiple women. While these may not have been my stories to tell, I can’t help feeling like I was complicit in upholding the status quo. These events have made me question my position as a feminist. At the time, it was easier to look away and brush it off as ‘men being men’. And stories have rarely ever been enough to bring down abusers. We didn’t have “evidence” to prove any of it – just stories of women who were made to feel violated and unsafe. So many of us continued to associate with them – professionally and otherwise – despite a growing number of stories about their misconduct.īut none of us could really muster the courage to do anything about it. So many of my peers have known about the kind of harassment these men had subjected multiple women to. I too have heard about the folder in question. Several women from Kolkata came forward with their own experiences with the person who allegedly created the folder, and others like them, and painstakingly recounted details they’d rather have forgotten in the face of constant denial, invalidation and false apologies from abusers who continue to bulldoze their way out of the accusations levelled against them.īeing a student of Jadavpur University myself, I have known most of the people who have been called out. What south Delhi boys do in the form of #boyslockerroom, Kolkata men take it a step further and create a Google drive account using pictures of women.Īfter tweets garnered attention, many confirmed that they had heard of this folder. Several other men, belonging to the same social circle, have reportedly had access to the folder. Twitter user revealed the existence of a Google Drive folder, allegedly created by an ex-student from JU containing nude/semi-nude pictures of women. While coronavirus has slowed most aspects of our lives, misogyny and sexism are alive and kicking.Īfter the leaked screenshots from the ‘Bois Locker Room’ Instagram group, several students from Jadavpur University (Kolkata) have come forward exposing yet another circle of upper-class men who have been indulging in similar “locker room” toxicity for years now.
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